I'm an 18 year old girl and for the last 7 years have had major problems with my mother.She is a bit weird and won't let me do anything. I am not allowed to wear make up,dye my hair,shave my body hair,eat food that contains artificial additives,have a boyfriend,wear skirts above my knee or tops that are anywhere near low cut! Iam not allowed to sleep over at friends houses because she says I will not be able to sleep,I am allowed to go out with friends in the evening but am not allowed to stay at their house and she always makes an excuse for why I can't leave the house.I'm not allowed high heel shoes,nail extensions,fake tan,to use a hair dryer.And the worst is she thinks it is bad to wash everyday and will only let me wash every week! I have to be asleep by 11 or I am in huge trouble.I've lost most of my frieds because they think I'm weird. It's not me it's her.My Dad is fine.What is wrong with her? The only other woman I know like her is my Muslim friend's mother!
Problems with my mother?
Hi,
Parents can have strict rules for kids as they feel it in their children's best interests but from reading what you have put your mother is not really allowing you to grow up and explore life experiences and mistakes.
You are now at the age where you are classed as an adult and you saying 'I can't do this and that' - basically I can understand your frustrations and what is happening is she is actually controlling you but by now doing anything about it, she continues to do it.
Is it that your mother is following strict faith beliefs? If so then there not a lot you can do about how she feels and you are living under her roof so she is able to tell you about house rules and so on.
I think you need to sit down with her and find out why she feels the need to smother you a little too much. What is she afraid is going to happen if she loosens the reins a little?
If things don't improve then you do need to look into moving out. You can't use your age as an excuse to stay at home and then moan when your mother won't allow you to bring mates home and so on.
Have a talk as there could be a reason for all her behaviour,
Lx
Problems with my mother?
stop the bullshit hun!,you are a piss taker and racist! Report It
Problems with my mother?
you had me until the bit about not washing but once a week. now i don't believe any of this.
Problems with my mother?
You are an adult, if you don't like it move out
Problems with my mother?
Sounds like your mum is a control freak. She likes to be able to tell you what to do. You should rebel, i know she is your mum but she is treating you like a child, your 18, thats classed as adult! Your mum does love you and is only trying to protect you but jeez, your 18, time to live a little. Do small like rebellious things and get a reaction out of her, then tell her your not a little girl anymore, your a grown woman and can do what you want!
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Wow. It sounds like your mom is having a hard time letting you grow up. Does she feel that these things are appropriate for her, and you are too young, or just that they are not appropriate at all? I think you should seriously consider going away to college. Get student loans, live on campus or find an apartment, and spend some time in the real world. If you are still in high school, try talking to your guidance counselor. If you were planning on living at home for school, ask about transferring or applying somewhere else. If you continue to live at home, it will be very difficult for you to meet someone.
And maybe you should shower at friends' houses, cause that could get gross. Or at school.
Good Luck!
Problems with my mother?
It's probably because she was/is unhappy with her life because she did all of those things when she was your age,and she thinks it is all down to that,while it isn't,or maybe she just doesn't want you to grow up and to lose you.Was she treated like this at her age by her mother? Just tell her what is on your mind,but put on an aggressive voice,because if you put on a sweet voice,everything your saying will go in one ear and out the other.Shout it to her if you have to.Tell her that you feel she is ruining your life,the best years of your life at that. Hope I helped!
Problems with my mother?
That's very bad for your development. Tyr to talk to your dad and make him talk to your mum. You are at an age where you should be allowed to find out for yourself what is good and what is bad. Or have you ever try to talk to your mum to see why she is doing that. Show her you can behave yourself whatever clothes you wear and you will always be her daughter. My brother always used to say it does not matter how short is your clothes, what is important is how you behave when you have got tehm on.
All the best.
Problems with my mother?
Your mother is a control freak!!!
Get yourself a job and find yourself somewhere else to live. Your dad puts up with it because he wants a quiet life, it's a shame he doesn't stand up for you seeing as you are being mentally abused.
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Your mom is old fashion and really controlling for that matter.
First have a serious talk with her about why you can't do anything or wear anything you want to, its not like your going to go outside in your bra and thong. If she does not give you a good answer question her authority such as if you ask.. Why do i have to go to bed early or whats wrong with going out and staying late at my girlfriends house every once in a while? IF she answers because i said so or some other pathetic excuse then say that she has no real reason to keep you in prision.
Another thing that you can do is MOVE OUT QUICLKY. You can get a job full-time if you dont attend school, or a part-time job if you do attend school. You need to get out of that house you live in, despite what you mother says about you moving out ignore her, you might end up getting depressed or suicidal about your happiness. If you go to school try dorming, there are student loans and may finacial aid avalible for students.
I was in your position once.. I ended up with severe depression, knocked up with a child, lost my pharmacy scholarship... And i'm taking a long time to recover from my families "weird" complusive controlling ways.
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either she's a control freak,jealous of your femininity,afraid of the challange your sexuality poses to her,too possessive and wants to keep you forever a child.Wotever,you have to move away to college,to aanother job/country.Otherwise you will not grow independent
Problems with my mother?
It depends on how your mother was brought up and what values she was taught You are of legal ager to move out Start applying for colleges and spread your wings and fly If she does this for religous purposes discuss with your dad and see what he thinks Maybe he can explain your moms behavior and reasoning
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What does your Father think about all this. Does he has the same restrictions as you about the washing and all that. You seriously need to get a life soon or you'll end up like your mam.
Not a bad person i'm sure but you need to get on with your life however way suits you. do something fast girl, get your father to help you with this or any other relations who would help you. Good luck
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ur 18!! take a stand.it doesnt matter she cant rule ur life 4ever lady .18 is waaaay 2 old 2 not be able 2 do that stuff.
Problems with my mother?
I don't know if you're an only child or what but it sounds to me like your mother want's to keep you to herself as fake tan, heels, make up etc. are all signs of growing up she may not be able to accepet that. Also you describe yourself as an 18 year old girl, you are a woman now and have the right to do as you please. I think moving out [prahaps with friends] is the only option as she seems pretty set in her ways. You need to do the same things other 18 year olds do, if you continue to live at home you will feel like you have wasted what are supposed to be the best years of your life and end up bitter and hating her. good luck
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